Converception

In my dreams I give my younger self advice. When I’m gone, he goes “Wow. Who the hell was that?” and goes on to do all the same stupid things I warned him about.

Then I go visit my future self and tell him about all this, and he goes “You came all the way here to tell me something I already know?” And he laughs at me and walks away.

But then he stops and sighs a great big sigh, and turns around and comes back. He puts a hand on my shoulder and starts talking. His tone is different now, softer, though I can’t quite understand what he’s saying. He looks like he feels genuine concern for me. He’s…his features start to blur. Nothing he says makes any sense.

And when he’s gone I shake my head and laugh and say “Wow. Who the hell was that?”

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The Prestige (Home Edition)

I’m doing some work when Aaron walks up and says “Daddy, do the magic with my ear.”

I’m all “What? Your ear?”

“Yeah. You know, I can’t find something and you [...] Continue Reading…

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Chronicles of Duncan MacLeod: The Crush

Since it’s the anniversary of my grandfather’s passing, here’s one of his stories.

As Papa tells me this one, we’re in his kitchen. He’s holding court at the little table [...] Continue Reading…

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Bee Calm

Last night as we were sitting in the living room watching TV, one of the boys pointed out that there was a bee flying up near the ceiling, bumping [...] Continue Reading…

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ABU’s Anything But Understandable

I wrote the following article on 8 April in response to a video released on 3 April by the Anything But Umno (ABU) movement in which its leader, lawyer [...] Continue Reading…

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rakyat / Jordan

When I started this blog back in 2004, I wasn’t really sure if I would stay here for the rest of my life. It just didn’t feel like home. [...] Continue Reading…

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A Cousin for Christmas

Back in 2009 I got an email from a lady – we’ll call her J –  who was searching for her biological mother. Her story was that she’d been [...] Continue Reading…

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Lost and Found and Lost Again

Mystery. It’s one of the best things about genealogy, and also, paradoxically, one of the most frustrating.

I was confronted with several mysteries when I set out to learn as [...] Continue Reading…

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Symbolic victory

I know I haven’t been posting much here lately. Been busy! I’m still planning (yes forever planning) a reinvigoration of my blog. Soon, soon. For now, here’s my most [...] Continue Reading…

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Chronicles of Duncan MacLeod: No Bull

As I contemplate the much-needed and long-planned reinvigoration of my blog, I can’t help but think that maybe I should also do something with the Chronicles of Duncan MacLeod [...] Continue Reading…

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In one ear…

I was taking a shower this morning when Al yelled from the living room, “Daddy, your phone!”

“Answer it,” I yelled back, “it’s probably Mommy!” Leen was on her way [...] Continue Reading…

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Sods in the City

The tragic story of a little girl who died recently in Guangzhou after being hit by a van and ignored by passersby has me reflecting a lot on the [...] Continue Reading…

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And That Has Made All the Difference

One of the things that fascinate me about genealogy is the fact that so much of who I am is the result of both happenstance and the decisions of [...] Continue Reading…

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Adoptees’ Right to Know Vs. Parents’ Right to Privacy

About two years ago I got an email from a lady in New Brunswick who’d read some of my posts on the MacVay family and figured she’d drop me [...] Continue Reading…

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Lost Treasures

I am a chronic procrastinator. It’s something I know I need to work on, and I will. Some other time. But for now, here’s an example of how procrastination [...] Continue Reading…

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